I told my old coach that I really wanted to start my new company.
He said, “No, you don’t.”
I said, “Yes, I do! This is really important to me!”
He said, “No, it’s not. Saying it doesn’t make it true.”
I said, “You can’t ignore what I’m saying. I know myself well. I’m telling you what’s important to me.”
He said, “Yes, I can ignore what you’re saying and just look at your actions. Our actions always reveal our real values.”
I thought about that, but it sounded wrong to me. What about people who want to learn languages, or create businesses, but haven’t started yet? What about people who want to quit smoking or quit their jobs, but haven’t been able to yet?
He said, “If they really wanted to do it, they would have done it. You’ve been talking about this new company idea since 2008, but never launched it. Looking at your actions, and knowing you, I’d say that you don’t really want to start another company. You actually prefer the simple life you have now, focused on learning, writing, and playing with your kid. No matter what you say, your actions reveal the truth.”
Wow. Yep. He was right.
I had been fooling myself for years, telling myself I wanted to do this, but my actions proved otherwise. Yes, I wanted it a little bit, but I wanted something else more.
Now I’ve been sharing this thought with friends who talk about wanting something, but aren’t making it happen. Each time, they have the same reaction I did.
No matter what you tell the world or tell yourself, your actions reveal your real values. Your actions show you what you actually want.
There are two smart reactions to this:
- Stop lying to yourself, and admit your real priorities.
- Start doing what you say you want to do, and see if it’s really true.