Derek Sivers

from the book “Your Music and People”:

Don’t be afraid to ask for favors.


Have you ever asked for directions in a city? People get a little ego boost when they know the answer to something you’re asking. They’ll gladly show off their knowledge.

So don’t be afraid to ask for favors. People like doing favors!

When I lived in New York City, one bold musician I know called me and said, “I’m coming to New York in two months. Can you give me a list of all the important contacts you think I should meet?” I laughed because I admired his directness! Then I emailed him a list of twenty people he should call.

Sometimes you need to find something specific: a video director, a JavaScript programmer, a sitar player. Contact everyone you know and ask. Friends of friends will know how to get everything you want in life.

Some people have time on their hands and would rather help you do something interesting instead of watching TV. Need help doing promotion? Need help getting equipment to a show? Just ask them!

By making them feel important, connected, and needed, you’ll be doing them a favor, too.